A Husbands Struggle―A Wife’s Love

Tony and Marlene at The Salvation Army's adult day program
by SalvationArmy.ca

“Sometimes it’s frustrating at home,” says Marlene, who is caregiver to her husband Tony. “Dementia changes everything.”

Four days a week Marlene brings Tony to The Salvation Army’s Adult Day Support Program at Regina’s William Booth Special Care Home. Here Tony has the opportunity to socialize, engage in dialogue, and participate in activities that promote physical, mental and emotional health.

“Dementia changes everything.”

The program provides day support and enhances the quality of life for people who might otherwise might be in long-term car. It also gives caregivers a much-needed break.

“I help Tony with daily living and manage all aspects of the household,” says Marlene. “It’s sad to see your loved one struggle with tasks that were once easy―brushing his teeth, getting dressed, having a shower―he often forgets to do these things or how to do them.”

When Tony attends the program, Marlene is able to complete household chores, make appointments and grocery shop. “I even attend my bridge club, something I learned when I retired,” smiles Marlene.

Marlene admits that the break away from caregiving means she has more patience and manages the evenings and nights well.

“The Salvation Army has been good for us,” says Marlene. “I don’t know what I would do without their help. Tony looks forward to coming and it gives me a break to do my things.

“The Salvation Army has been good for us.”

“Dementia can be challenging. By taking care of myself and keeping well, I’m a better caregiver for Tony. I want him to live at home as long as possible.”